EVERY SITUATION IS A CLASSROOM; LEARN!

       With very high hopes I approached a computer one Monday morning and opened to the National Service Scheme official site to check my postings because I had work everything out according to my plan and I had even started an attachment leading to service at Barclays Bank like a month and half ago.
I knew I had put in the right effort to help me attain that place for my national service. As I keyed in my special code,I waited in anxiety to see the fruit of my hard work only for my page to appear and for me to find myself posted to DANTANO L/A JHS-ASUNAFO SOUTH,BRONG AHAFO....OMG! what the hell! I said in utter disappointment.
       I  decided that with every strenght left in me am gonna change this posting because I couldn't see myself 'moving away  from my comfort zone not to talk of going that far away... to TEACH!. I know you are probably laughing by now but trust me it wasn't a joke for me at all,I thought the world had just fallen on me.
      Initially even my mum told me to try and change it because "this one dieeerr no lie',in her own words. After exhausting all efforts and still couldn't change it I was left with the option of either going out there or not doing my service at all....eeiiiii! what was I gonna do?
      Mum realised that I was getting depressed about this whole thing so she intervened just like her sweet self does every time(and at this point am gonna say I love my mum so much;she's the best to ever happen to me).  She sat me me down and really advised me not to worry but take up the service wherever I have been posted to because I have no idea why all my efforts did not materialise and the plans God has for me there.
       She told me to go  there and make the best out of it because I have no idea how many lives I could affect out there and she beleives in me. I was touched so much,grabbed the opportunity and reported at my service post and today I can proudly say  that indeed I made it and am also proud of me.
       Saying it was all rosy would be like telling you Obama is my gate man...never true! There were difficult times but I sailed through ten good months and  have really learnt a lot of things here that some time past I considered irrelevant.
        As a teacher I was automatically responsible for counselling my students when they ever needed my help or when I deemed it appropriate and this really helped bring out the enormous blessing I'm sharing with you now.(motivation).
         Would you be surprised to know that I actually started writing on my blog during this period of my service. I always knew that I had this gift  and I knew how to get the necessary platform to communicate to others but I never actually got the insight to start writing like am doing now.
        At my post I had enough time away from the usual business in Accra to reflect what I can actually do to make a change in someones life and bingo! it occurred to me to start using my knowledge on blogs acquired from school to write out my thoughts and experiences .  
     I know for a fact that I have received a lot of blessing from people I came into contact with and I have also been a blessing to those who came into contact with me during my period of service.
      Using my own situation as an example, I want to encourage you to treat every situation like a classroom and learn something new from it. Never give up on anything even before you start because of how bad it looks from the outside. I encourage you to venture into that situation now! and  be sure to learn something new.
       Need I say much,hoping that all I have said will affect your life greatly one way or the other. May God in his own grace interpret this piece to you and give you a greater insight into it. God bless you.

THE RIGHT ATTITUDE

      Possessing the right attitude towards life and towards everything is not an easy thing to do but it sure is a key to achieving success and  joy derived  from attaining results in your endeavors.

      There is a need to develop a right attitude toward basically everything you do but i would love to elaborate on two aspects. 
          Developing the right attitude towards yourself ; To be accepted and valued by others means you need to accept  and value yourself first. In other words, before you desire love and acceptance from others,you have to make sure that you deserve it.
        You need to work hard on developing yourself in every way(mentally,physically,economically,spiritually). Develop your abilities as well,this will help boost your self confidence.Always have at the back of your mind that every individual  has an equal chance to become greater than he is and the best way to better yourself is to do a lot better.
        Try new things every time and gain the experience.Its ok to make mistakes atimes but be sure to learn from your mistakes and move on. Life is too short to dwell on mistakes of the past.
        Appearance is very vital,love yourself enough to take care of you. Look presentable and neat at all times because this draws people closer to you. Smell good and make sure you dress decently because this will boost your confidence. 
          Developing the right attitude towards your relationship;  With experiences from past relationships and from observing that of my friends and even family, I have realized that when you cling so much onto a relationship and are so scared to loose it, you end up loosing it indeed.
       I also realized that clinging so much unto a relationship results in being overprotective,unnecessarily jealous and nagging, all of which can suffocate your partner and make them want to have their freedom back thus leaving the relationship. I have had instances where I had to speak to some people to find out why they abandon a relationship and they all complain of this same thing mentioned above.
        The right attitude hence is to give your partner some space to concentrate on building their own life whiles you build yours as well, get a life of your own away from the relationship. I have grown to believe that when you love somebody ,you give them enough  space and chance to be themselves and  if they always come back to you ,then indeed they are yours for real.
         There is no need to bank all your hopes on your partner. If you find your life empty,try putting something into it.Invest time in other things like good friends,family, work or school and hobbies. Always remember that  a task worth doing and friends worth having makes life worthwhile.
         I used to plan my life around every guy that I dated and you know what that means right? By doing that means I was always so scared to loose them and if eventually the relationship doesn't work I get completely dissapointed and my plans crumble down.Then I have to start all over from the scratch with someone else.
       This behavior meant I was always moving backwards not ahead in my life and when I realized this I developed a right attitude towards it. I also realized that Love is  like a bridge-  we cross over it,but don't establish yourself upon it.
        I now have a life of my own away from any  relationship I enter. I have aligned my goals in life and I am working hard towards achieving them. Instead of  building my life around a man, I  now welcome a man who will support me to  achieve these goals.You cant do away with love because when there is love in your life there is joy in your heart.
        I once listened to a counselor speak at a valentines day  programme which was organized at K.N.U.S.T campus and it turned my life around in a small way.
        She mentioned that whilst you are young and not married yet, it is healthy to make a lot of friends. Get to know them,watch their behavior  among other friends and their behavior when they are alone. Watch how they react to issues  and how they handle problems. Do not be in a hurry to commit, this is not to say that commitment to one good person is a bad thing but to be on the safer side you need to actually relax  to make that decision.
      Taking your time to decide helps prevent too many heart breaks  and help you make a choice of a partner that will  last you a lifetime. The writer Leo Buscaglia,PhD. also buttressed this in his book LIVING LOVING and LEARNING that " a mentally healthy individual is the one who has most alternatives,the most viable ones. a person who can say' if this doesn't happen,what else and what else and what else is possible".    
       I'm still  very young and in the process of learning  a lot more in life but with the experiences I have had so far, I have learnt my lessons,developed  positive attitudes towards them and  am now more result oriented and very confident.
       I end here with so much hope that you would pick at least one point in all I have said which will affect your life greatly and help you to live your life like a snowball; always leaving a mark and never a stain.
       May God in his own grace interpret this to you and give you a greater insight into this. God bless you.

LOVING

 Many a times we find ourselves feeling sorry and crying over the fact that we give out so much love and care in all forms; emotionally,financially,spiritually,physically, and psychologically, yet we never get it back the same way we did.
Come on wipe your tears, I understand how you feel perfectly and I have been on that road before.
I hope you know by now that the world we live in is not a fair place and unfortunately people who give a lot out don't get it back the  same way they did.
I used to cry over the same thing sometime ago because i felt like i love and care a lot about people and I don't get it back.
I make people feel special and  happy even on their birthdays and yet no one even remembers mine.Trust me  it such a painful experience and if u don't take care you might stop doing good. But hey you gotta live with it. It surely is a hard pill to swallow but you have to.
Guess what I discovered which made me stop crying over that...i read a book entitled LIVING,LOVING AND LEARNING,written by Leo Buscaglia,PhD. and  the author made a very significant point that I had to ponder over several times and and i was very happy I read that book.
The author said "give love because you love to but not because you expect to be loved back,if you give expecting something in return,you are sure to be unhappy". From this i learnt that i have give out and not expect anything in return, and I'm sure to never get dissapointed. Hence I put that into action and i can tell you am a happier person now because I give and I don't expect in return  so when i actually get  to receive back its like a surprise present and trust me it feels much much better.
 Based on ma personal experience and the little I have shared with you, I encourage you to wipe off your tears. Do not be discouraged at all in doing good and showing love to people. Keep smiling and  you just do not know who out there you  can make happy or even save because you smiled and showed love to them. God bless you and interprete this very well to you and help put your heart at rest.